Peter,
Please accept my sympathies for your losses. There is no easy time to loose a father, brother, or family member, but it seems all the harder when you are supposed to be celebrating the holidays.
My family is also struggling. My mother has dementia/alzheimers/whatever and we are trying to get her cared for without going bankrupt. Good luck.
I am also in the final stages of finishing a video game that I have spent my life savings, home equity and borrowed three years of income to complete. I'm not complaining though. It's going to be great when it's released.
No hurry on the ear stuff. I'm sure I will gain much understanding from it when you complete it.
You sound like you have a very interesting family with interesting friends as well. Ocean vessels no less! I collect interesting friends too. They are so much more fun. Last week I spent two days in NASA's International Space Station, Mission Control Room at Johnson Space Center in Houston. If all goes well, we will soon be building products for the mission to the Moon and Mars for NASA. Some strange trip it's been.
If we don't speak before Christmas, happy holidays. Try and give yourself a few moments every day where you can enjoy some music and forget your burdens. And keep the writing coming.
Best Regards,
Bill