Thad, sorry I didn't see this post earlier.
One option is to get yourself a couple of Manley / Langevin CR2001s. One of my favorite sounding tom mics. They are bulky, but you won't be able to damage them with your drum sticks. They are tanks.
Another REALLY amazing tom mic is the Gefell M300 small diaphragm condenser. A really stellar tom mic. Do a search in Fletcher's forum for my tom mic shootouts. These things have so much note to them, and a nice attack.
BTW, like TSD said, 414s are actually an OK option. You should be able to find C414-EB P48s (the first version of the black ones) on eBay for around $400 each. I think, while not sounding as good as the silver EBs, they sound better than any subsequent black version.
And if you are afraid of getting a condenser mic and hitting it with a drum stick, just tape a SM57 to the top. That's the best use for those things: Deflecting the drumsticks off of a really good mic.