I would like to put in my non-musical 2cents here.
She will support you as long as it's the best thing for the "family". Which is her main concern. I have a friend in a situation sort of like this. His girlfriend waited patiently and supported his music for years and years,...and years. He never went anywhere with it per say. Then they got married. Now it's her turn. She was patient for him, now "she" wants a family and now he has to do for her as a husband, and father.
Most women are into your dreams IF you are in the dream already. Like the dream is happening to a degree, it's already rolling, or your doing something to work towards it, and there's a future she can see in the real world for it. Even if it is just a little, at least it's goin'. Audio engineering is tough since most women can't see a real world use for it. Even though every time they turn on the radio, they hear what we do, something like audio engineering is something they need to SEE to make the money making career connection. I have another friend who is a mix board designer, who carried around a picture of a board and a module so he can show people what he does, cause when he tells them without the pics, they just don't get it.
Women are not so fond of dreams that take years and years and don't go anywhere, or ones that she doesn't see much future in the real world for. Even if you are so pationette about the thing and you love it, if it takes to, too much time away from you being a father and husband and isn't really going anywhere and hasn't "been" anywhere, she is not going to go fo it.
Especially if it is a "career" situation.
I do agree with Rick though, but with a stipulation, "NEVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAMS! As long as they jell with the wife!"
YOu can try getting a PT gig at a radio station or recording studio doing anything. Just get in there. That might help get the $$ rolling in (satisfying her) on the dream, while you are forwarding the rest of the dream through school. Compromise is a wonderous thing
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